We will have full confidence about our own selves if we have wisdom, correct understanding and equality, and are free from lustful desire, greed, cravings and aversions, fear and worries.
It has got nothing to do with our external appearance, our status in the society, our achievements, our study of the knowledge in the world, our talents and abilities, our wealth or health, nor any name and form at all.
It is the strong faith and believes in ourselves that keep us going in life and keep doing what we are doing with sincerity whether we are getting any support from others or not, if other people acknowledge our work or not, recognize us or not, praise us or not, condemn us or not.
There is no harm to do things to please other people and make people happy if we are sincere and the actions are kind and benificial according to the teaching of right conduct, even if we are so reluctant to do it.
But it will be doing more harm for everyone if we do things that are unkind and harmful to please someone trying to get their love and attention, or on account of any selfish intention.
That is true confidence. It doesn’t change even though everything else is under going changes. It is the ego feeling good or not good if a person self-esteem or self-worth is based on the judgment from other people and the things that he has done or hasn’t done.
Of course there is nothing wrong to feel good if we are kind to others and have attaines certain achievements but let us not become arrogant and always remain humble. Let this happiness come from doing good be one of the motivations for us to do more good then.
At the beginning we might be not good at what we are doing, but determination and perseverance and true confidence will let us keep going until one day we are good at it, despite discouragement or criticism from others especially from the people who we look up to.
It doesn’t matter what type of expectation from other people, it is us, ourselves that doing the work, not those people. Be happy even though we have not yet successful in all our pursues.
Now that we are not success yet doesn’t mean that we will not be success in the future. Most important is that we keep on going until the end of the journey doesn’t matter how many times we fall down on the way.
So what if we are not successful according to the worldly point of view, but we had did our best effort? That is already a great achievement.
At the end, if we can detached from the term ”success” and ”failure”, give no value to these name and form, then we will be free from the craving for success and the aversion for failure.
We don’t need any name and form to define us as successful or unsuccessful in life.
It is the wisdom that free us from all the duality in this world, free us from success and failure, good and bad, free us from the mind and the ego, and free us from the bondage of attachment that is giving us the true confidence, not from the knowledge of the world. A person with all the knowledge of the world might still be very unhappy and discontent if he or she doesn’t have wisdom.
May we all attain wisdom and be truly confident.
